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If you say disabled people deserve to get paid less than minimum wage then you are saying disabled people don’t deserve to have a home, or adequate food, water, heat, and medical care, a phone, or assistive devices, or weather appropriate clothing, or to provide all of these things for their children, etc. We can’t even afford all of this to begin with on a minimum wage job (or SSI benefits), and yet they want to pay us even less than that.


Your not any less of a black girl if you don’t have a booty.

Your not any less of a black girl if you can’t dance.

Your not any less of a black girl if you don’t have any curves.

I find a lot of black girls feeling complacent if they do not have these certain attributes, that almost seem synonyms to Black Women. Your blackness is not and should not be defined by this.

I also see a lot of people, black or non black, who help perpetrate these stereotypes and it needs to end.




I want to let people know about this app, especially for those people who suffer from social anxiety where telephone communications might be triggering or uncomfortable.

It’s called “TalkTo” and is available for iOs devices for FREE here and is also available in Google Play for Android devices! Essentially, it allows you to ask businesses questions by sending a text message instead of calling. For businesses that aren’t set up to answer a text message or an email (it will try to send it either way) a TalkTo agent will make the call FOR you, and then will text you back with the company’s response.

I have used this app to make reservations, check for stock, check store hours, and more. Certain businesses will have a higher response time than others but if you ask ahead of time then you won’t have a problem. I sent a restaurant a question this afternoon (see picture) and i had a response within 15 minutes. 

Give it a try!


This is the best thing evar!


From Shit People Say to People with Disabilities

I’ve noticed that ableism tends to be one of the lesser discussed isms on Tumblr, particularly in regard to physical/visible disabilities. While we usually associate the isms with hate and discrimination, ableism can be much harder to pinpoint because a lot of it is seen as attempts to help or empathize with disabled people.

A few tips:

  • Noticing that someone is disabled or thinking that they might have a disability is not an open invitation to interrogate them.
  • Similarly, it’s not okay to allow your children to endlessly ask us questions. We are not a convenient way to “teach them diversity” on the fly. We are not obligated to educate anyone. I don’t care if you think it’s cute or precocious, it’s rude and very awkward.
  • Please avoid making any connection between disability and religion. It’s almost always offensive, no matter what your faith. Telling me that I can be healed through prayer also automatically assumes that I want or need my life to be changed.
  • Do not appropriate someone else’s experiences as a way of showing solidarity with their community. Being injured for a few weeks is not the same as being disabled. If you really wanted to be my ally, you wouldn’t need to find a way to shoehorn yourself into my perspective to get yourself to care.
  • I don’t really want to be your inspiration if your definition of inspiration is “thanks for making me feel better about my life because I think your life looks incredibly shitty by comparison.” 
  • On that note, don’t make presumptions about our quality of life. When people say things like “I couldn’t live like that,” you’re basically implying that you would rather be dead than disabled. That doesn’t feel very good.
  • Physical disability does not always indicate cognitive delays. Even if the individual in question does happen to have cognitive disabilities, what gives you the authority to determine how much they’re able to process and understand? Talk to a disabled person the same way you would talk to any other person.
  • If you’re that fascinated with how and whether or not we can have sex, why don’t you find out for yourself? (With consent, of course) ;)

Anonymous asked:

Have you ever had a client in a wheelchair?








No, I have not. I’m not sure how common this is. Most people in wheelchairs, obviously, cannot walk for one reason or another. Whether it is paralysis or some other neurological condition. I’m sure these individuals would benefit from the intimacy but can’t actually engage in intercourse. I think it would be a very tricky situation. It’s a rare person that has such good upper body strength (at least in my experience), that they could lift themselves unassisted out of a wheelchair.

so many assumptions, so many problems

This reply is BS!!!!  If you don’t know someone with a disability… keep your dang mouth shut, & stop spreading inaccurate information. Disabled people DO HAVE SEX AND DESIRE INTIMACY… they may not think that you’re worthy of that connection… ever thought of that? ~ Vilissa, who owns her sexuality & sensuality as an PWD.  

I never said PWD don’t desire intimacy or sex, I was saying I don’t know the machinations of it. I’ve never had sex with a PWD, I’ve only cared for critically ill PWD in an ICU setting which is perhaps why I have a skewed view of things. I do admit that I probably phrased things in a way that wasn’t the greatest (i.e.- I shouldn’t have said most). My point for the whole post was that it may be very tricky for an escort to have sex with a PWD- depending on a lack of sensation, contractures, muscle spasms, respiratory difficulties, or even getting that person out of the wheelchair.

"My point for the whole post was that it may be very tricky for an escort to have sex with a PWD- depending on a lack of sensation, contractures, muscle spasms, respiratory difficulties, or even getting that person out of the wheelchair"

our point is that this is an awful and untrue thing to say about a community of people as diverse as the world. That this is hurtful to say about us, something actually damaging to our lives. Because these are quite popular misconceptions you’re spouting off and other escorts see your post it hammers the lies fucking home. If even ONE escort denies a wheelchair user because they read that its more work, then you are part of the culture that caused that discrimination. FUCK THAT. FUCK THAT SHIT.

Please who do you think you are to say “you’re sure” about that shit when you’ve NEVER HAD A DISABLED CLIENT.

Who are you to say that you are “sure” about it, YOU’RE SURE? Do you know what that means, it means everything you’ve said is truth. It means you’re confident about your ignorance and that is why we are upset. Your post was confidently lying about us.

Your post showed up in the wheelchair tags all on its own. UGH. Do you have any idea how many people post fucked up shit like this to the wheelchair tags!! Insults and jokes at our expense. And guess what were not just going to keep our mouth shut about our business, cause when tumblr posted it on our tag it became our business.

Please STOP adding to the lies, this response was, more ignorance, more justification more “I wasn’t wrong” mentality.

Don’t you think there is enough hurtful ignorance in the world? Don’t you think there is enough BULLSHIT lies about disabled people without adding your two fucking cents about something you know NOTHING about?

Can you apologize without being hurtful? Im sure, lol, like I’m actually sure, the community would appreciate that.

Reblogging for commentary. Also to add that in terms of sensation.. Let’s not entirely focus on the sensation and function of the genitalia. Sex is a full body experience and when one area of a person’s body is affected it’s important to pay attention to the areas that individual can feel in terms of stimulation. Furthermore, just because a person may not be able to feel below the waist fully or at all for example, does not mean they do not enjoy that area of their body being stimulated. Just my two cents on the issue as someone who has spina bifida and is paralyzed from the waist down. I hope blondebombshell learns from all the messages and reblogs they have been reading on this issue. All of it is important to consider.

Oh. My. Fucking. God.

I sure as hell ain’t gonna be doing any scissoring unless I want to accidentally kick my partner in the face, but I sure as hell can do oral or things with a strap on if I so wish.

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