No, I have not. I’m not sure how common this is. Most people in wheelchairs, obviously, cannot walk for one reason or another. Whether it is paralysis or some other neurological condition. I’m sure these individuals would benefit from the intimacy but can’t actually engage in intercourse. I think it would be a very tricky situation. It’s a rare person that has such good upper body strength (at least in my experience), that they could lift themselves unassisted out of a wheelchair.
so many assumptions, so many problems
This reply is BS!!!! If you don’t know someone with a disability… keep your dang mouth shut, & stop spreading inaccurate information. Disabled people DO HAVE SEX AND DESIRE INTIMACY… they may not think that you’re worthy of that connection… ever thought of that? ~ Vilissa, who owns her sexuality & sensuality as an PWD.
I never said PWD don’t desire intimacy or sex, I was saying I don’t know the machinations of it. I’ve never had sex with a PWD, I’ve only cared for critically ill PWD in an ICU setting which is perhaps why I have a skewed view of things. I do admit that I probably phrased things in a way that wasn’t the greatest (i.e.- I shouldn’t have said most). My point for the whole post was that it may be very tricky for an escort to have sex with a PWD- depending on a lack of sensation, contractures, muscle spasms, respiratory difficulties, or even getting that person out of the wheelchair.
"My point for the whole post was that it may be very tricky for an escort to have sex with a PWD- depending on a lack of sensation, contractures, muscle spasms, respiratory difficulties, or even getting that person out of the wheelchair"
our point is that this is an awful and untrue thing to say about a community of people as diverse as the world. That this is hurtful to say about us, something actually damaging to our lives. Because these are quite popular misconceptions you’re spouting off and other escorts see your post it hammers the lies fucking home. If even ONE escort denies a wheelchair user because they read that its more work, then you are part of the culture that caused that discrimination. FUCK THAT. FUCK THAT SHIT.
Please who do you think you are to say “you’re sure” about that shit when you’ve NEVER HAD A DISABLED CLIENT.
Who are you to say that you are “sure” about it, YOU’RE SURE? Do you know what that means, it means everything you’ve said is truth. It means you’re confident about your ignorance and that is why we are upset. Your post was confidently lying about us.
Your post showed up in the wheelchair tags all on its own. UGH. Do you have any idea how many people post fucked up shit like this to the wheelchair tags!! Insults and jokes at our expense. And guess what were not just going to keep our mouth shut about our business, cause when tumblr posted it on our tag it became our business.
Please STOP adding to the lies, this response was, more ignorance, more justification more “I wasn’t wrong” mentality.
Don’t you think there is enough hurtful ignorance in the world? Don’t you think there is enough BULLSHIT lies about disabled people without adding your two fucking cents about something you know NOTHING about?
Can you apologize without being hurtful? Im sure, lol, like I’m actually sure, the community would appreciate that.
Reblogging for commentary. Also to add that in terms of sensation.. Let’s not entirely focus on the sensation and function of the genitalia. Sex is a full body experience and when one area of a person’s body is affected it’s important to pay attention to the areas that individual can feel in terms of stimulation. Furthermore, just because a person may not be able to feel below the waist fully or at all for example, does not mean they do not enjoy that area of their body being stimulated. Just my two cents on the issue as someone who has spina bifida and is paralyzed from the waist down. I hope blondebombshell learns from all the messages and reblogs they have been reading on this issue. All of it is important to consider.